Learning about Self-care and Coping
If you have been abandoned by your biological parents, you would surely feel incomplete. That is probably because you have not experienced what it is like to be loved by your real parents. There is a need for you to be guided because the symptoms of being abandoned does not go missing over time. If you do not have a counselor to deal with such a problem, you better look for some insights online. There are some communities that deal with your problems. What you only need to do is to find the best community ever.
For sure, you are not the only one who feels totally-abandoned. Hence, it is essential that you speak with peers who also feel the same way. Those people must have been in the process of coping up because they find the right community online. What you need to do is to ask them of the names of those communities so that you can start searching for yourself. If the names are given, you better check the background and function of each community. You need to read reviews and witness how others had been helped. You need to find a community that is indeed nurturing so you need to base your judgment on the experiences that other people share professionally online. Choose the one that has the highest number of referrals.
It matters for you to look for one that has been providing articles, blogs, and videos for more than a decade. It only shows their consistency and passion to help people cope with their emptiness in life. You also need to assess if those items are striking. You can read one article or blog or even watch one of their videos. For sure, you can find some testimonies from other people you do not know but feel the same way with you. Be sure also that the community is reachable online. You do not want to spend time browsing the slow website.
Choose the one that discusses various matters such as adoption, DNA and scientific genealogy, donor conceptions, family secrets, genetics and heredity, late discovery adoptees, psychology and therapy, NPEs, and search and reunions. You need to know more about all those things because you might decide to search for biological parents soon and you want to know the process. Besides, you also need to learn a lot about coping strategies. For sure, you could not just present yourself to your biological parents one day when you are not ready. You must be emotionally-ready for that to happen.
It is very important to learn how to soothe yourself. You could not just blame your biological parents immediately about what happened because they might have reasons. You need to earn much love so that you will be reasonable as well once you come in contact with your biological parents. If you need to speak out your mind, the community you choose will be there to assist you. They would be willing to hear from you if you will shoot them a message.